There are just some guys out there who would do absolutely anything to get into your pants. And if you’re interested in protecting yourself from sexual predators like that, then you need to make sure that yourself with the knowledge that you need to spot these people out when you see them.
When you want to find love, you are going to have to put yourself out there. But you also have to make sure that you are still keeping yourself guarded. You don’t want to end up dating someone and getting really serious about them even when they’re only looking to play around with you.
You want to make sure that any guy you date is going to be someone who you know you can always count on to take you seriously. You don’t want to end up with someone who is only goofing around. You want to be staying away from the guy who only wants to treat you like some form of a sexual object.
Fortunately for you, there are some signs that you can be on the lookout for in a relationship that can tell you if he’s serious about having an emotional connection with you or not. If you’re unlucky enough to be in a relationship who happens toe exhibit a lot of the signs that are listed here, then you need to just excuse yourself from that narrative entirely.
He pressures you into moving at a fast pace.
He is constantly pressuring you into moving through the various phases of your relationship at a fast pace. He’s always rushing you. He’s always forcing you to do things for him. He makes it seem like you need to keep up with him or else he’s going to dump you. It’s his way of locking you down and getting what he wants right away.
He doesn’t put effort into taking you out.
He doesn’t really take you out on dates much. He isn’t really invested in that aspect of your “relationship” if you can even call it that. He only just wants to keep you indoors where he knows he can put the moves on you.
He doesn’t make an effort to learn much about you.
He doesn’t really try to get to know you at all. He doesn’t try to get intimate with your or connect with you. He couldn’t really care less about what your interests are or what kind of personality you have. He doesn’t express any interest in your goals, dreams, and aspirations.
He would rather make out with you than talk.
He’s not interested in what’s on your mind or in your heart. He’s mostly interested in those lips that you have and getting you into the mood.
He only ever takes you out to try to get you in bed later on.
On the few dates that he decides to take you out on you always get the sense that it’s all for the purpose of getting you to sleep with him. You know that he isn’t doing it to try to connect with you or to get to know you better. There’s always a hidden agenda.
He doesn’t remember anything that you tell him.
He doesn’t really make an effort to keep track of the things that you say to him. Anything that you utter goes right through one ear and out the other. That just goes to show that he’s not really invested in whatever you have to say to him at all.
He only ever really wants to hang out with you at home.
He doesn’t really try to bond with you outside the confines of the bedroom. He doesn’t take you out in public. He doesn’t try to make you feel like you’re someone who is worth showcasing to the open world.
The only compliments he ever gives you revolve around your looks.
Just because he compliments you about your looks doesn’t mean that you’re a lucky girl. He should also be complimenting you about your personality. If he doesn’t, then it’s likely that he only likes you for your physical attributes.
He has a reputation for being a f**kboy.
If your guy has a reputation for being a f**kboy, then it’s highly likely that he’s still going to be the same guy towards you. It’s very unlikely that he has changed his ways purely just for you. You want to be seeing the best in people but you can’t be disregarding their past either.
He immediately distances himself from you after you have sex.
When you decide to give in and have romps with him for the first time, you notice that he starts to distance himself from you. He gets farther and farther away from you. And he’s only going to want to come back if he knows he can have sex with you again.
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