Getting into a loving and romantic relationship always feels just so perfect until it’s not. This tends to happen a lot. You fall in love with someone and so you decide to get into a relationship together. But then you start to notice that your relationship isn’t so perfect after all. You start to discover that there are so many things about your partner that you find really iffy, but you just can’t seem to put your finger on it.
It’s really confusing to you. You’re in a relationship and your partner tells you that you are loved and appreciated. But you just can’t help but feel like something is wrong. At the back of your mind, you know that there’s just something fishy going on about your relationship and not everything is the way that it’s supposed to be.
Maybe you have to consider the possibility that your partner isn’t really being completely honest with you. Perhaps your partner’s feelings aren’t really as genuine as you have been led to believe. Your partner tells you that they love you that they would do anything for you. You hear them say those words, but you don’t really feel it. You don’t feel it because they don’t act on it. They are so quick to say all these things to you, but they don’t necessarily follow up their words with real actions. That’s why you’re feeling a void in your romance.
But why would your partner be lying to you in the first place? Well, maybe your partner is just using you for something. Maybe for your looks, your money, your kindness, your popularity, or something else. The fact of the matter is that they don’t really love you they are merely in love with what they can get out of being in a relationship with you.
Here are a few signs that your partner is just using you.
1.They only ever act nice towards you when you’re alone by yourselves
They would never want other people to think that they’re into you. They hide you. They are secretive about their feelings for you. They don’t want it to be public knowledge that you’re together because they would be ashamed of you.
2.They are the only ones who make the decisions in the relationship
They always call the shots and they never let you get a word in. They are always making the decisions whether big or small. They refuse to hear you out and they never ask your opinion for anything at all.
3.They text you a whole lot more than they take you out on dates.
They keep on texting you and keeping contact with you, but they never take you out on real dates. This would be understandable if you lived really far away from each other in a long-distance relationship kind of situation. But it doesn’t make sense if you don’t try to see each other often even though you live really near.
4.They always act very vaguely and mysteriously when they’re around you.
They act very shifty. You always get the sense that they’re trying to hide something from you. You can never feel like they are about to reveal their whole selves to you.
Another way you can tell that a person is really using you is when they only want to be with you when you have sex. In this case, they are only using you for your body and whatever sexual pleasure they can derive from you.
6.They don’t make an effort to be nice to your friends.
If a person were truly invested in being in a relationship with you, they would also make it a point to be nice to your friends. But if they are refusing to make that effort, then they really aren’t serious about being with you at all.
A non-committal partner is not a real romantic partner at all. If you notice that they are constantly avoiding talks of defining the relationship, then that may mean they’re not really interested in attaching themselves to you in the way that you want.
8.They look to you whenever they need a quick ego boost.
In this case, they are only using you as a means to validate themselves. They see you as someone who can give them a little confidence booster when they are feeling down. It gets really obvious whenever they desperately start to try and fish for complements from you.
They are using you for your kindness and generosity. They know they can get a lot out of you by asking nicely, but they would never be willing to return the favor themselves. They are only interested in what they can get you to do for them.
Enock Mugabi aka Eye Witness is a Journalist, Seasoned Writer and Music Analyst with a passion for sports.
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