It’s not just about how big your shaft is. It’s not about having chiseled abs and huge arms. It’s not just about how angelic your face might be. It’s not even about your technique or the number of positions you are capable of getting into. It’s so much more than that. You both want hot sex.

You both want to make sure that you have a good time in the bedroom. Sex is all about being able to pleasure one another. You always want to make sure that you are doing right by your girl; but sometimes, she isn’t always going to be so open to you about the things you might be doing wrong because she doesn’t want to hurt your ego.

However, if you’re really interested in making sure that your girl has a great time whenever she’s making love to you, you always have to stay mindful of your actions. You need to make sure that you aren’t doing certain things that destroy and compromise the entire experience for her. You want to make sure that she is having just as much of a good time as you are. And you can do that by educating yourself on the matter. Here are a few things about sex that you might not know about; but your girl desperately wants you to be aware of.

1. If you expect her do to certain things for you, then be ready to do those things for her. If you’re going to want her to go down on you, then don’t get mad at her if she asks you to go down on her as well. It’s only fair. Sex should always be about an equal exchange.

2. Don’t give in to the idea that men love sex and women don’t. Women love to have sex just as much as men do. It’s just that she might have different standards and preferences as you. But it doesn’t mean that she doesn’t lust over some sensual action the same way that you do.

3. She doesn’t want you to treat foreplay like some kind of chore that you have to go through before you can get to the main event. She really wants you to invest yourself in it. She wishes you wouldn’t rush through it. She wants you to give just as much attention to foreplay as you would to the actual sex.

4. Don’t whisper into her ear. You might think that you’re being intimate and mysterious with her. But the truth is that you sound like some serial killer and you’re just creeping the heck out of her. Talk in your normal manly voice. Don’t sound like some villain in a suspense film who whispers to his victims just before he slaughters them.

5. Fast isn’t always better. What’s important is that you maintain the pace that you’re on. And if that means that you go slow, then go slow. There’s no point in going really fast and then you end up burning yourself out too quickly because you can’t sustain the speed at which you’re going. It’s better to be slow and steady than fast and inconsistent.

6. Don’t just shut up and act as if nothing is going on around you. She’s going to need some verbal confirmations from you that you’re having a good time. She needs to be able to read from what you’re saying. This is especially important if you’re letting her take the lead in the bedroom.

7. Be upfront about things that she needs to know about. If you have some kind of physical ailment that you feel like she deserves to know, then just come right out and say it.

8. You don’t have to do what they do in those porn movies. You aren’t porn stars and you don’t have to be acting like it. It’s more important to stay true to who you are and how you feel. Act on your basic instincts. Don’t try too hard; it’s only going to destroy the mood for her. It’s likely that she sees sex as more of an emotional act than a physical one.

9. Make sure the environment is clean and tidy. If you’re going to invite a girl back to your place, then at least put some effort into making sure the environment is going to get her into the mood. Tidy up a little bit.

10. If she asks you to wear a condom, wear a condom. You aren’t the one who is going to have to go through significant physical changes due to pregnancy. And if she doesn’t want to take that risk, you need to be able to respect that about her.

11. It’s common sense. She isn’t going to be too overjoyed about doing it with you if you aren’t going to clean yourself up beforehand.