DEAR ZZINA POWER: I’VE been having friends-with-benefits romps with a married ex of mine.

When we met at college 20 years ago, the bonk session was incredible. I ran into him six months ago, and we picked up right where we’d left off.

He recently bought me a sex toy and I often send him videos of me using it, as requested.

It’s always been up to him to call the shots, and I just go along with it.

But I’m kidding myself that it’s just romps.

I have feelings for him.

We are both 39 and he has a gorgeous wife.

I’m a single woman.

He won’t leave his partner, so should I keep seeing him?

He makes me happy.

I know we need to talk, but when I’ve asked if we can speak on the phone, rather than texting, he doesn’t like that.

ZZINA POWER SAYS:  The more you see him, the deeper you are getting into this dead-end relationship.

You’re going to get hurt.

He’s happy with this arrangement – seeing you for sex and then going back to his wife.

But you are selling yourself short.

Have some pride and finish it.

Apart from increasing the risk of spreading coronavirus, this liaison is no good for your mental health.

Find somebody you deserve, who’ll give you 100 per cent commitment.