DEAR ZZINA POWER: I HAVE developed a thing for older women and I can’t stop fantasising about them.

I’m 33 and married to a kind, beautiful woman of 28, who I love very much.

But last summer I met a more mature, sexy woman in her early fifties at the pub where I worked.

She is a regular and I got to know her pretty well. I think I want to be with her. I’ve told her how I feel but she says she’s not ready to be with me.

Although I don’t want to cheat on my wife or hurt her by leaving, I can’t get the older woman out of my head.

I think about her all the time, even when I’m making love to my wife. What can I do?

ZZINA POWER SAYS: Ask yourself what is missing in your life and your relationship that makes you have this physical attraction to older women. When younger men are attracted to them, it is sometimes caused by unresolved issues with their own mothers.

You need to talk to your wife. Is she happy with your marriage? Counselling would help you explore your motivations and what you really want.