It’s the 21st century and romping is no longer as taboo as it once was. Plenty of modern relationships place heavy premium in the value of sex when expressing intimacy or affection. In fact, a lot of people really factor one’s abilities in bed into whether that person is compatible with them or not.
It’s just a fact that we can no longer ignore. Your sexual prowess ties heavily into how good of a relationship partner you are. You don’t exactly have to be mind-blowingly good in bed. You just have to make sure that you don’t suck and that you aren’t terrible. That isn’t too difficult. Of course, if you and your prospective mate are having a few chemistry issues, you can always try and see whether your sexual habits have anything to do with it.
Of course, some people will be better than others at romps, but that won’t always be the biggest factor in determining compatibility. Again, the biggest and most important thing that you have to remember at all times is that you don’t be problematic in the bedroom. If you lack a sense of self-awareness in that area, then maybe you should read on thoroughly until the end of this list. If you find that you are guilty of a lot of the items that are listed on here, then you are definitely doing something wrong in the bedroom.
1. You practice poor hygiene.
Yes, the act is colloquially called getting dirty but that is just a figure of speech. No one would want to go down on you if you don’t tidy up down there. Make sure that you wash and clean the important areas.
2. You rely on alcohol to help you do the deed.
Alcohol should be used sparingly. Yes, it has the potential to make things more fun, but you can’t rely on it all the time. Ditch the liquid courage and make sure that you’re operating on all cylinders.
3. You have a low drive.
A low sex drive is indeed an issue and it can greatly affect someone’s performance in bed. You need to be able to motivate yourself to actually want to before you can be good at it.
4. You are lazy.
It’s okay to not want to be in the mood every single second of every single day. Of course, you would want to just rest after a long day at work sometimes. But you shouldn’t make it a habit. Give your partner something every once in a while.
5. You are a little too quiet in the bedroom.
A little noise always adds to the thrill and excitement of sex. Don’t just shut up and act like a mute when you’re doing it. Try to throw in a few moans and some little whimpers here and there.
6. Your partner doesn’t ask for seconds.
One of the great indications that you’re not doing too good in the sack is when your partner is always just content with one. Of course conversely, when your partner asks you for seconds, that means you’re doing something right.
7. You overdo it with the painful activities.
Bringing a little pain into sex is a fetish for a lot of people. However, there are very few people on earth who will find extreme pain in sex enjoyable. Keep things in moderation. You don’t want to scare your partner away.
8. You don’t diversify your repertoire.
It’s the same act over and over again. Your partner can practically predict all of your moves at this point. Don’t allow this to happen. Try to bring something new to the table every so often.
9. You’re not honest about what you want.
You can’t expect your partner to be a mind-reader. You can’t expect your partner to know about everything that you want to happen in the bedroom if you don’t say anything. A lot of what makes good sex really good is communication.
10. You just want to finish.
Enjoy the journey. Don’t rush towards the moment of climax. The build-up is just as important and you can’t afford to just take it for granted.
11. You say no a little too often.
Okay, so you’re a little hesitant to try some new stuff out. That’s okay. But you can’t be saying no all the time and expect your partner to be happy with it. Sometimes, you just have to put your game face on and try new things.
12. You always make it all about yourself.
It can’t be all about you. Sex should never be a selfish act. You should always look to be pleasuring each other as much as you want to be pleasuring yourselves.
13. You act too self-conscious.
Don’t let your shyness and vulnerabilities get in the way of good sex. Confidence is always attractive and you always have to believe in your own hype.
14. You catch your partner faking it.
If your partner is faking it, then yeah, you weren’t that good and your partner just felt sorry for you.
Enock Mugabi aka iWitness is a Journalist, Seasoned Writer and Music Analyst with a passion for sports.
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